You get to focus on improving yourself
Your 20s are when you finally have the means and opportunity to truly focus on you. When you’re in a relationship however, that’s going to require work too. The problem with working on relationships is that you have less time to work on yourself. Whether that means taking a course to upgrade your skills, taking up a new hobby, or joining a new fitness class, being able to grow into a better version of yourself goes a long way to making you prouder of the person you are. And when you truly love yourself, that’s what is really going to make you happy in the long run!
You have more time to do your favourite things
Perhaps you prefer to spend weekends shopping, binge-watching shows, or just reading a book. Being in a relationship often requires splitting your weekends between doing what each of you would like (or need) to do. Having more time to spend on doing things you want will ultimately make you feel like your weekends are a lot more leisurely, which is always a good thing in my book.
You never have to compromise
As an example, if you are someone who loves eating meat, and you date someone who doesn’t, all the meals you will ever have together will involve some kind of compromise. Either you will sacrifice eating what you really want to, or your hypothetical date will have to sacrifice. The same thing can be said for choice of music, taste in movies, sweet or salted popcorn, too hot or too cold environments, and even whether you eventually own a cat, dog, or neither. When you’re single? It’s all about what you want to do or eat, 24/7.
No worrying about having to like your partner’s family
Many people have experienced dating someone with friends or family they don’t particularly like. Whether your significant other (SO) had an obnoxious uncle, overbearing mother, or freeloading best friend, there’s an extra level of stress involved in dealing with them or getting them to like you, at least superficially. Not to mention feeling like you have no right to say anything negative about their family or friends. When you’re single though, you are the one who dictates who you spend time with and who you make space for in your life.
You don’t have to consider finances for two
When you’re in a long-term relationship, every big financial decision concerns the other person. It can be even tougher if you’re the one earning more in your relationship and marriage is on the table. Thinking about whether you’ll both have enough money for a home, kids, a car, or even enough to make rent can be a big financial stressor. If you’re single on the other hand, you never once have to factor in a second person when making your decisions. Essentially, one hundred percent of your salary belongs to you (except for the CPF bit, of course). It’s a lot easier to splurge on yourself or save money when you’re the only person who needs your money.
No one is going to steal the blanket from you
Only someone who’s had the blanket stolen from them will know of the cold, bereft feeling that comes with it. It’s especially torturous if you’re someone like me who can’t sleep without a blanket (yes, I do the one-leg-out thing when it’s warm). Being single means you’re promised the maximum comfort possible while you sleep! No worrying about a lack of personal space, awkward entanglements, snoring, or having to acknowledge that it’s actually really uncomfortable to fall asleep spooning someone or having them breathe hot air down your neck.
You don’t have to split the holidays
When both halves of a couple celebrate the same holidays, you either have to split the holidays into time spent with both families and friend groups, or you may choose to alternate years. It’s never ideal, especially when you love spending the holidays with your family and friends. When you’re single? You get your friends and family full-time for all the holidays!
You spend more time with your friends
You know how it is, when a friend in your group starts dating, and falls off the face of the earth. It’s easy to get swept up when you enter a new relationship, neglecting your friends in the process. A balancing act is possible, but you’re definitely going to miss a bunch of gatherings now that you have a new set of priorities. If you’re guilty of this, take singlehood as an opportunity to make it up to your friends, and spend more time with them! Solid friendships matter most, at the end of the day.
Your happiness isn’t dependent on another
It’s an inevitable result in caring deeply for someone else: their state of happiness directly impacts you. I’m not talking about a SO that makes you unhappy, but a situation in which you can’t help but mirror the way your partner feels, out of a much deeper empathy. If you’re someone who is pretty stable emotionally, you might be better equipped to handle this. But if you aren’t, then a relationship can be an emotionally draining roller coaster. Being single lets you feel fully in charge of your happiness, which is a pretty great thing.
Your space is kept the way you like it
No arguing over the toilet seat being up or down, wet towels on the floor, or someone laying on your bed without showering first (are my pet peeves showing yet?). There is something truly precious about having a space that is completely yours, untouched by anyone else. You get sole jurisdiction over your furnishings, wall colour, and you get more space to yourself!