While we've all heard complaints about the sex slip-ups men make, relationship experts will have you know that women commit their fair share of bedroom blunders too. We suss out the five most common mistakes that you could be guilty of, and show you how to avoid them and bring sexy back to the bedroom.
DON’T BE A PRUDE
Probably the most common mistake women make, Lou Paget, author of 365 Days of Sensational Sex says that women usually rely on their partner to get things started. When you initiate sex, it shows that sex with him is a priority in your relationship and that you relish sex for what it is. Men find this show of power sexy and you’ll find that they get extremely turned on by the simple fact that you desire them sexually.
LET YOURSELF GO
Sari Locker, author of Mindblowing Sex in the Real World says that by letting go of your inhibitions, you’re indicating to your partner you're having a great time. Watching and hearing you get turned on makes him turned on, so go on and let it show. Locker adds, "Don't be afraid of what sounds and words might come out of your mouth. It's only natural and quite normal to express yourself when something feels so amazing."
REMEMBER HIS NIPPLES
Regarded as more erogenous in females, men’s nipples hold a concentration of nerve endings and are highly sensitive as well. Yvonne K. Fulbright, author of Touch Me There! suggests sucking gently on his nipples, while using your tongue to increase the stimulation. You can alternate between kissing and licking the areola as well.
TAKE CHARGE OF YOUR ORGASM
It is important for women to know that they are in charge of their own orgasm, because you’re ultimately responsible for your own pleasure and satisfaction.
Barry R. Komisaruk, co-author of The Science of Orgasm explains that you cannot expect your partner to be a mind reader. Start focusing on communication by giving him feedback; tell him what turns you on and how you like to be touched. If talking about it makes you uncomfortable, try guiding his hand with yours.
HERE, THERE, EVERYWHERE
According to Paget, men love a combination of two things: a sense of adventure and spontaneous erotic passion. So don’t restrict your lovemaking session to the bed or the bedroom, surprise him with sex in an unexpected place. Places to consider would include counter tops, stairwells or even the balcony. By exploring new, naughty places for some sexy-time, you'll be making some very steamy memories of your own.