Sometimes, the strangest thing happens: you fall for someone unexpected, and three years later, you’re running around like a headless chicken planning a wedding and fixing up a love nest.
I’ve spent the past three years celebrating our differences and marvelling at how blessed I am to be venturing into this new stage in life.
And even though Mr. Right gets some serious mouth runs, is grumpy when unfed and sleeps like a brick, I knew he was The One.
HE KEEPS ME ENTERTAINED
Mr. Right makes me laugh daily. Sometimes, he does it in the midst of a heated discussion, (which annoys the sunshine out of me) but most times, his humour hits the spot. I’ve said this before and I’m saying it again: life is short, so we need to spend most of it in good spirits.
HE’S GOT A SOLID SET OF VALUES
It’s important to have a similar set of values, as I figure it’ll make married life much simpler. I saw in Mr. Right the same values I grew up with and the ones I would want to impart to my children, if I ever decide to open my womb for procreation.
HE’S PATIENT (like really, really patient) AND KIND
I’m surprised the Catholic Church hasn’t canonised him yet. He is the most patient men I’ve ever met. I know this because – I’m going to come right out and say it – I’m a very difficult person to be with. I am fearsome when angry, morph into a snapping piranha towards the end of every month and have absolutely no self control when it comes to shopping. But somehow, despite all that, he never loses his temper and continuously encourages me to be a better person. It’s very easy to be kind to the people who are kind first, but it’s a challenge to care for someone who isn’t being nice.
HE’S GOT A SUPER-HUMAN AMOUNT OF SELF CONTROL
His self control extends to everything, including saving money and keeping his emotions in check. In fact, he refrains from spending freely and hardly ever raises his voice, opting instead for the more reasonable route of conversation (which I am incapable of at times).
HE CAN COUNT (and be counted on)
A friend once told me that partners should fit together like a lock and key. In other words, they should have different strengths and weaknesses, and complement each other. This brings me to my point – I’m very bad with anything that isn’t a word and Mr. Right is pretty good at his sums. This is important to me because his squirrel-in-winter ways ensures that we’re reasonably comfortable all year around.
Of course, the list could go on, but I really don’t want to seem like I’m bragging. So it’s your turn – what’s one quality you really appreciate in your Mr. Right?
Alisa Chopard is a writer who appreciates the finer things in life, like yummy food and even better company.